Lego Swimming Pool Layout

I’ll say it can also be funny and revealing:

My first job was with this weird dude (we’ll call him Andy) that ran a telecom subcontracting business; I was effectively a cable monkey with a bit of extra computer knowledge. To give you an idea of who this guy was, he was a family friend from church (I was raised in a Fundie household) and was the kind of guy that, when the CDC put out the “everyone has to have a cloth covering” mandate during COVID, he wore a cheesecloth mask, even though my friend (also working for him; he knew this) had to go home to a VERY immunocompromised father.

We were on our way to a job site somewhere relatively far (like an hour or two), and I was in the passenger seat where he was talking to me about all the people he’s hired and passed on.

Now, for context, I was barely shaking eggshell off at this point; if a queer person that I felt safe around had asked me, “hey <deadname>, are you—” *hand tilt*, I’d have responded with, “eh probably? I can’t transition bc of family and gf though, so…”

AAAAAnyway, Andy turns to me in the car and—almost bragging, I shit you not—says, “did you know I’ve never hired a woman? They just don’t apply.”

In my head I go “hehe—stelth,” but I just nod my head and also think, “yeah I don’t think that says as much about women as you think, buddy. I think that says more about you.”

Honestly I wish I’d been brave enough to say that in that moment. But I was an egg in an unsafe space sitting next to my boss in a job I needed, so I didn’t advocate the way I should have if I’d had a spine.

we talk a lot about how damaging trans women’s experience of being around men who think there are no women around, but i rarely hear talk about how exhausting and alienating it is to constantly have to interact 1 on 1 with men who think theyre talking to another man. its damaging and draining in a dfferent way.

You can lead a trans person to the cursed pool but you can’t make them jump in.

Only they can say whether theyre trans or not; however, I know many trans people (myself included) for whom this was a part of their egg story.

My advice is: internalized transphobia is a helluva drug. Let them figure out how to navigate that themself.

CALLING ALL TRANS PEOPLE

Someone I know says they wish they were born as the opposite sex (and that they would only transition if it could be done instantly) but still identifies as cis. I want to be as respectful and hands-off as possible so they can figure this out themselves but I just wanted to ask y’all if they are trans. I think the only things holding them back are some misconceptions about gender and a fear of being discriminated against for being trans. Do they count as trans if they don’t identify as it? I’m still going to respect their wishes to be called by their current pronouns and name, but I just want to know if it would be okay to refer to them as trans when talking about them (to people who don’t know them ofc). Oh also as a disclaimer: they said they didn’t want me using they/them pronouns for them but i’m just using those pronouns to protect their identity.

“Do you regularly have these thoughts?”

“Have you ever tried drag?”

“How many trans friends do you have? … Just me? Do you want to make more? I have some gals to introduce you to.”

i had a cis gay guy recently tell me that he wished he had a vagina so that he could get pregnant and i sorta just had to hit him with the transfem stare.

To my uk trans people and allies out there.

Hi. Yes? Why am I in a different living room?

Trying to summon a trans girl...

✨Ava✨

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SO true. Why can’t we just… live?

What I wish happened during my first estrogen dose

As a fast food opener, I really feel that “fast travel to work” dealio

the thing that sucks is that people love saying sleep early is good etc etc and yeah it is. I've seen some benefits before. but I think it sucks to ignore that late night is the only time with any freedom. I think it sucks to not acknowledge the dread in waking up and it's a work day again

#fuddruckers 😋

Have a couple gay shirmp

I was bored in class so I made LGBT shrimp (gonna make more tomorrow dw)

I love them so much