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Initials : SB
Age : 18 yrs, 10 months
Rising sign: Aquarius (according to vedic astrology)
Your question:
How can i improve my focus and love for studies? My cgpa is stuck at 7.5 out of 10, and i feel burnt out whenever i think about studies. My goal to be a rank holder with a cgpa above 9.5
What can SB do to improve their focus and love for studies?
I didn't even start to shuffle but after reading your context and as a tip, if you want to radically raise your score considering that your current score is 7.5 out of 10, you will end up shooting yourself in the foot. You should be more practical and rational about your current situation. Setting such a high bar for yourself without even being able to get out of 7.5 is not the best solution. You should focus on reaching a 7.8 and if you want to be ambitious, maybe an 8. It is not bad to dream big! At all. But you should take small goals, go step by step. When you get to 7.8, set a goal to get to 7.9 and so on. In other words, set realistic goals babe.
But that's not what you came for, let's see what the cards say: You have a spread that is mostly pentacle suits. They reinforce what I told you: be more practical. To be more specific, be more practical in your daily academic routines. One of them could be what I told you. Currently you feel that you lack more interest, you have apathy and you are dissatisfied with what you are achieving. But I see you mostly in a cycle. You may be comparing yourself to others (big mistake if that’s so). Although you are not quite deep in this cycle at all. The fact that you have sent an ask to get out of it confirms that there is a part of you that wants to get out of it and WILL get out of it. The obstacle you present is one of disappointment and sadness because you are not able to establish a solid foundation to improve your academic performance. You feel you don't have the stability you should and you refuse to see another point of view. But your best solution is to establish what I told you, a better routine. Start with a study schedule that suits you. If you can't stand 40 minutes in a row with 25 minutes of rest, make it fit you: 10 minutes of study followed by 8 minutes of rest. Are you a visual learner? Draw your notes in a notebook. You struggle with organizing? Create a study plan beforehand. What are your strengths? Are you good at retaining information at longer periods? Then instead of 40 minutes try 55 minutes of studying. Stop focusing on comparing your achievements with others, it should be comparisons with your own self. No more looking at how much your classmate scored versus you. Look at how much you scored versus last time, is there an improvement, what things did you feel helped you and what things did you notice that didn't? If you feel that feeling of wanting to compare yourself imagine a yellow bubble around you and every time you want to compare yourself to others you repeat to yourself in your head: "This progress is mine, no one else's. I'm working on me, and what I'm doing is mine. I am working on me, and on what I can achieve, I am not going to compare myself". You repeat it as many times as necessary while you imagine yourself expanding that bubble until you feel a sense of tranquility. The more you say it with more trust in your words, the more easily the bubble will expand. And then focus on what you can control in that moment. If you’re not that spiritual, try the CBT technique: challenge your thoughts. Thoughts create emotions -> emotions influence behavior and behavior influences thoughts. It is a cycle. There’s a free Harvard course for this! Be mindful with yourself and learn how to improve that resilience against burnout. And by all means, create smaller goals that will help you build your confidence little by little. A simple “Let’s finish this homework first” and then going to your teacher and asked them what you could have done better makes a huge impact. That’s how the burnout can stop too. Do not go thinking that by the next semester you are going to have a 10. You must go little by little but consistently. Do not give up. Nurture this slowly. Because that's the only way you're gonna make it.
It's so funny that Misa is famous. Imagine that you're a normal ass cop and you get put on a special task force to catch a mass murderer. And you meet with the expert detective in charge. And he tells you your top 2 suspects are a random teenager and like. Ariana grande
hey, dear. i would like to enjoy your free reading.
as a child, i considered myself spontaneous and outgoing. however, after certain events, i became the opposite, much more shy (sorry, english is not my first language).
what triggered this change and what do i still need to work on?
my initials are 'efa', i'm 19 years old, aries rising in the house one.
What triggered this change in EFA and what do they still need to work on?
When I did your spread, it caught my attention that everything started with a major arcana (judgment in reversed), which in my opinion is so blocked that it did not catch my attention, i don’t know how to explain it but the card was so… cloudy? Then when I was drawing the last card, another major arcana came out (the emperor); where he was sitting in control and relaxed. The energy of him was so strong that I could not focus on the other cards lmao.
The root of your problem is that you have a huge block on your own introspection. It really clouded my judgment, I can't imagine how hard it must be for you. But as I was saying, you are being so hard on yourself. Like an excessive anguish for the sake of not relying on others again. Maybe in that experience that marked you you were judged excessively to the point that you internalized it too. You were judged by emotionally unstable people, I can feel the heaviness of them from here. I think they drove you to hold back and put out that fire and spontaneity you had, maybe to fit in? No man, I better stop because I'm getting angry at them channeling this (ugh, I'm so sorry that happened to you). What's blocking your return to your spontaneous and outgoing self is your struggle to be clear about cultivating your emotions. To be a more compassionate and big-hearted person. You may overanalyze social situations from a place of emotional sensitivity (which is understandable), but in doing so you extinguish your flame. The negative criticisms and the attempt to turn off your flame was in vain, you have the queen of cups come out and she talks about learning to cultivate what you already have. It is interesting how after all this done to you, you still got the queen of all the suit of cups. This gives me to understand that you don't need to make a radical change lol, you just need to re-cultivate daily routines in order to reconnect with this side of you that went dormant. You must let it flow naturally again. An effective way to make it flow naturally again is to take control of what you allow and what you don't allow. You must develop a solid foundation of self-confidence. Because once you do is when you can be your spontaneous and outgoing self. Avoiding and not being direct is not setting boundaries, EFA. The last letter made me dizzy! lmao your boundaries are confusing. Or maybe this situation that happened to you was deeper than I can imagine. But since it's a free game let's not get off track. Anyway, as I was saying: you should practice saying no, you should trust your intuition more about which people give you a bad feeling and which others do not. In particular, let go of that excessive judgment that you carry in you for not being the same person you were before. Others made you pay for it, don't do it yourself. You are free of it when you decide not to do it to yourself. Don't please anyone. Become like the emperor, sitting in your chair, in control, direct and unafraid to look straight ahead with your head held high. I recommend the sandwich technique, oh and this video to create boundaries is very good. Start at your own pace and remember that you are not selfish in setting boundaries, it is simply self-care.
every time i start to feel cringe for being too deep in the hyperfixation i remember the intense depression i have waded through and have to remind myself that enjoyment is fleeting (so grab it with both hands), and life is for loving (so hold that love close), and if anyone thinks i’m cringe they must not be having a very good time (and i hope they can find a good time soon).
Megan’s Instagram Update (November 9, 2024)
hi! i’m p.p 18 pisces rising! i have no placements in aries. my question is why am I struggling to find love? i have never dated anyone before but i have had crushes and heartbreaks. the ppl i catch feelings for often take advantage of that fact and i have reached a point where i am incredibly jaded about love due to the unhealthy disappointing and unlucky experiences i have had,, ty lots 💓
Why is PP struggling to find love?
What stops you is that you are very guarded. It's as if you shut yourself off and remain quite distrustful of others. You may also have high standards. Which I understand, because I do the same thing lmao (twin where have you been~ /jk). Never lower your standards though! And as I was saying, that distrust forms an emotional distance from others. The high priestess appeared reversed, and based on the context of your reading, maybe that distrust comes as a defense mechanism from bad experiences and is blocking your intuition. You need to learn how to stop them from having an influence in you to the point they no longer block you from connecting with others in a more healthy way. You may have inadvertently built a wall without realizing it. The reversed star in your spread seemed very saddening to me, the disappointments have been difficult for you. It is not bad to have high standards or to be careful with others, in your case it seems that your disappointments have tinted something that may be innocent, and instead of having standards and just being careful, you turned distant and distrustful. You need to open up without lowering your expectations. Imagine yourself as if you were someone using a brush to dust off a painting—it is not a bad thing! You're just removing the dust to take advantage of the use that beautiful paint can have in a room. The best way to do this would be if you become more emotionally independent and learn to be more compassionate with yourself and also with others (but this comes second lmao). Without lowering your standards. Just between us, your cards have a lot of color so there’s a hopeful future for you, there was just one gray card and it was a good one. You have a really softer side deep inside, don't let it get all dust up!
Casually dropping his hyper fixation into the convo so he’s forced to talk to me for another hour
i just finished rewatching death note and why is light kinda…
at this rate I will be answering an ask per day, I know. but i was the one that wanted to use a 3 cards spread while being a certified yapper deep in my blood 😫
Hi, how are you? ♡
My initials are EL and I'm 19 years old, Leo ♌️
• How can I improve my skills to connect with new people and build genuine relationships? Please.
How can EL improve their skills to connect with new people and build genuine relationships?
In your current situation your only problem is that you are very misaligned, specifically you give more than you receive. You try too hard to "give" in your relationships disregarding your own needs and values. You need to change that focus: What do you value most in a connection? That they are honest with you? That they have integrity and don't bend their will? For example: That they are honest people or do you value people who connect with spirituality? What we value is not carved in stone—it changes. But it is important for you to know what your core values are. It is also important for you to know what your needs are and whether the connections you have align with them. A simple "I feel..." or "I need..." makes a big difference. Let’s say you value “supportiveness” in friends and when you have an important event you want them to be there for you or even show up (if their calendar isn’t full that day). Like a friend that couldn’t make it to you receiving an achievement and finds a way to “attend” during their lunch break by watching the livestream and leaving comments. Communicating an "I need you to support me in this, because I don't feel valued" or “I need you to support me on this, because I value ‘supportiveness’ (your core value) a lot” will cause you to stop being the only person in charge of giving more than you receive. If others don't listen to your needs despite communicating them or don't align with your values (or both because everything is interchangeable!), you need to let them go.
If you want to improve your ability to connect with new people and build genuine relationships, your main obstacle is in finding a balance between letting things go and starting over. You experience anxiety in doing so. It's like a fear of the unknown. You may overthink how to approach people, afraid of being taken advantage of again. You have so much to give, but you don't receive what you are looking for, what fulfills you emotionally and makes you feel valued. You end up in a state of discouragement, perhaps even anguish to see the circumstances in a more optimistic way and without fear—of starting over. The best thing you can do is to realize that the happiness and emotional satisfaction you seek in your connections was simply misguided. You need to improve on three things: one, balance how much you give and how much you receive; two, let go of the bad experiences you had by being more optimistic, cutting off the ones that are currently not working for you and letting go of discouragement; three, rethink your focus, communicate your values and needs and prioritize yourself. First you must know that the emotional connections you form with others are not your only way to make you feel full and complete, you have so much love to give and to spare—you can fill yourself without any problem. Don't expect others to fill your cup when you can do it too, and never betray yourself (your values and your needs) to connect with people. You will never lose by prioritizing yourself.
my first favorite hobby is yapping. second is being extremely quiet and not talking ever at all ever.
game closed! thanks for participating
Welcome to my SECOND TAROT GAME ! I will be answering free questions to the first ones that meet the requirements. If you want to participate read the rules, requirements and fill out the form! You have until this Friday, November 8th, at 6:00pm EST to participate. I will be answering the first 10 asks on a first come, first served basis.
RULES
You must be at least 18 years old.
You must follow me.
You must reblog this post.
Don't ask vague questions.
No yes or no questions or very specific timing/location.
No medical/legal advice.
Read the before you apply first.
Fill out the form.
I will not accept direct message questions; they must be by ask.
If you forgot a detail in an ask, you can send it again with the full information, but it is likely that someone else will steal your position. For example: you were the 3rd person when sending your ask, but you are now the 4th person when resending it.
Anons are allowed but please tell me which blog you reblogged this from on my direct messages!
Feedback is a must. If it is something about the future, you can tell me if the reading about your current energy resonates.
BEFORE YOU APPLY
CURRENTLY: OPEN
Have you been going through constant problems in a specific area of your life? these problems have left you lonely or feeling overwhelmed? You're not alone! Let's find out about this specific area and how to survive it in the best way possible.
This time you need to formulate a specific question based on the themes of personal growth (it can be romance, studies, your relationships/connections with others, etc.). The themes need to be based on the true node rx in aries we are experiencing currently. To be more specific, if you want to ask a question about romance it can’t be how someone feels for you, it must be on theme with personal growth like: where is this relationship headed, why am I struggling to find romance... For this game, I will use 3 cards for the spread instead of 2. You need to give me information to understand a little bit about the current true node in aries in your birth chart, before you send a question. What I need is in the form.
FORM: copy & paste
Initials
Age
Rising sign
Do you have Aries placements on the earliest degrees? (those from 0-10) If yes, then tell me. If not, don't worry it's not required.
Your question based on a theme of personal growth. Some question ideas: How can I support women better? How can I be a better friend? How am I as a friend (strengths and weaknesses)? What strengths and weaknesses do I have when dealing with problems?
ANONYMOUS PARTICIPANTS
I'm going to skip over the anonymous participants who did not clarify who they were on direct messages.
One participant submitted their alias anonymously, but there are several direct messages from others where they just say they submitted their question anonymously without telling me WHO they are. So... I don’t know who's who.
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Hiiya there excited for participating in your tarot game :3
My initials: SG
I'm a saggitarius rising
My age : 18
I do not have any aries placements
My question: What are my shadow aspects which I need to work on in terms of romantic relationships
Thank you so much 💓
Aspects you need to work on in terms of romantic relationships
I'm inclined to believe that you are someone new to romantic relationships. Perhaps you've recently had one or were in the process of getting into one, avoided the inevitable and it was too complicated. You tend to have a desire to start a relationship but have a hard time taking the initiative to connect emotionally with people. There are vulnerability issues stemming from a lack of self-confidence. You think you are not capable of initiating something and being vulnerable, but the irony is that you are. There were times and occasions when you could have used that ability to connect, but you resisted. The potential was there, but in the past you had a hard time sustaining a relationship because of that inability to open up on an emotional level. Your insecurity clouds your ability to make a deep emotional connection. Subconsciously, by letting yourself get carried away by these insecurities you prevent your personal growth. You don't want to look in the mirror and see your most vulnerable and insecure areas. But in doing so, you're left not knowing what areas on you need a trim, a new dye job, a little touch up, etc. You're stunting your growth. When you enter a romantic relationship, it's important to collaborate with your partner-open up, communicate, set boundaries, and recognize when it's time to let go if things aren't working. In your case, you are having a hard time with this process. What things did you like about the relationship? What abilities could you have explore that your insecurity prevented you from doing? What things were part of your immaturity as a person and not the other person's fault? You need to let go of that control. You have to recognize what you can control and what you can't. If things don't have a solid foundation, you have to let it go. Don't hold on to something that is going to bring you down and only cause you more pain in the long run. It is when you begin to see it from this perspective that you will finally be able to free yourself from those weaknesses that hold you back in your romantic relationships. Currently that blockage to your potential in being vulnerable makes you resistant to change and keeps you stuck. That is what you need to work on. These patterns are built and if they continue they can be reinforced. When you set boundaries, and accept that certain conflicts and processes are necessary in romantic relationships (and must happen no matter how reluctant you are to let it happen), you will finally break free from this stagnation. Studying about emotional intelligence, and communication as a couple will help you get out of this stagnation! I highly recommend Steph Anya's videos, CinemaTherapy and other YouTube channels of licensed professionals who offer help in these areas.
OH my GOD. The aesthetics of your blog is immaculately out of the world. So inspirational. I wanted to comment on one of your posts but replies were restricted ig. But I'm just here to tell you your blog is so awesome and I would definitely wait to read your work. You're so talented!! All the love to you <3
Oh yes! The future spouse reading was giving me so much trouble to edit so I put it on private :(( I wanted to fix the html code but Tumblr kept messing it up and I had to put it on my drafts. Guess I'll have to post it again. But I would really like to take the opportunity to add more sections, or even do it again . I've never done pick a piles before and I have such a perfecionistic ass. Which is not a good combo.
But thank you so much !! I really appreciate it. And all the love to u too ! 🩷🩷
your style. your pictures choices. your typography and fonts. the best i’ve ever seen OH MY WORD i will never get over this
AAAH thank yoUUU, it means a lot 🫢🤭🩷
Welcome to my SECOND TAROT GAME ! I will be answering free questions to the first ones that meet the requirements. If you want to participate read the rules, requirements and fill out the form! You have until this Friday, November 8th, at 6:00pm EST to participate. I will be answering the first 10 asks on a first come, first served basis.
RULES
You must be at least 18 years old.
You must follow me.
You must reblog this post.
Don't ask vague questions.
No yes or no questions or very specific timing/location.
No medical/legal advice.
Read the before you apply first.
Fill out the form.
I will not accept direct message questions; they must be by ask.
If you forgot a detail in an ask, you can send it again with the full information, but it is likely that someone else will steal your position. For example: you were the 3rd person when sending your ask, but you are now the 4th person when resending it.
Anons are allowed but please tell me which blog you reblogged this from on my direct messages!
Feedback is a must. If it is something about the future, you can tell me if the reading about your current energy resonates.
BEFORE YOU APPLY
CURRENTLY: CLOSED
Have you been going through constant problems in a specific area of your life? these problems have left you lonely or feeling overwhelmed? You're not alone! Let's find out about this specific area and how to survive it in the best way possible.
This time you need to formulate a specific question based on the themes of personal growth (it can be romance, studies, your relationships/connections with others, etc.). The themes need to be based on the true node rx in aries we are experiencing currently. To be more specific, if you want to ask a question about romance it can’t be how someone feels for you, it must be on theme with personal growth like: where is this relationship headed, why am I struggling to find romance... For this game, I will use 3 cards for the spread instead of 2. You need to give me information to understand a little bit about the current true node in aries in your birth chart, before you send a question. What I need is in the form.
FORM: copy & paste
Initials
Age
Rising sign
Do you have Aries placements on the earliest degrees? (those from 0-10) If yes, then tell me. If not, don't worry it's not required.
Your question based on a theme of personal growth. Some question ideas: How can I support women better? How can I be a better friend? How am I as a friend (strengths and weaknesses)? What strengths and weaknesses do I have when dealing with problems?
I asked the cards and I think it would be good to have a tarot game with a personal growth theme. Rough days are coming and I believe this could help.
I was thinking about doing another tarot game for this month like a monthly thing. i thought it could be something cute. but then i remembered we just entered mercury rx preshadow today 😭
I was thinking about doing another tarot game for this month like a monthly thing. i thought it could be something cute. but then i remembered we just entered mercury rx preshadow today 😭
Attention! The tarot game is closed
Just a reminder that the tarot game closed two weeks ago. I know a lot of you have been enjoying it, and I really appreciate all the interest and enthusiasm. But the message about the x-kit issue had nothing to do with the tarot game. I hope that clears things up! Thank you for your understanding and support. Please avoid sending any more questions for the game, as they won’t be answered. Right now, I’m only accepting questions about the pick a pile readings I’ve done. Thanks to everyone who participated!
I'm in love with your aesthetic of your blog and I adore how your readings are put together! The energy you've curated on this page is very lovely, can't wait to see more!🤎
Aaah, you’re so sweet! You have no idea how much your words mean to me. I really appreciate you taking the time to leave such a lovely message. Thank you!
I was trying an x-kit extension while answering one ask and accidentally deleted the others 😭 Please if you can, send them again so I can get back to each of you!
★ Oh it has been a minute! Hello everyonee, I'm back with the pac that was promised! Sorry for the delay, oh it's just, I've been hearing some thunder (literally). Now, let's get straight into it. This pac is focused on first timers and who will be their first romantic partners. Take a deep breath, ask yourself the question and pick the pile that calls to you the most!
DISCLAIMER: this is a general reading it will be as close as possible to your situation but it will not be accurate. take only what resonates. if you want a more accurate reading you can book a reading!
PILE ONE
Personality wise? Intuitive, loving, good-natured person with whom you'll click with instantly, even though they'll have a hard time expressing their deepest feelings for you. They're going to be somewhat unstable in how they express them - one day super passionate, next day distant. They tend to just avoid addressing emotional issues directly. This is because they’ll carry emotional baggage from previous relationships that will make them struggle to open up to you.
What you’ll like about them is their ability to stay calm, even when things get challenging. For example, if you’re overwhelmed or dealing with stress, they’ll be the type to quietly sit with you, not needing to say much but making you feel supported just by being there. They’re ambitious and hardworking, and though they may struggle to express deep emotions sometimes, they'll be really comforting and stable to you. They’re the type who, after facing a setback, will dust themselves off and keep pushing forward without complaining, which you can find inspiring. Their calm nature will help you feel at ease, (somewhat like some INFJs where their mere presence can calm people down) and while they may not be super expressive or the most touchy-feely, their presence will have a comforting, almost healing effect on you, especially when you need it the most.
In the relationship, their emotional baggage and hesitancy with expressing those deep feelings might make them seem a bit reserved or even detached at first. For example, they’ll take time observing and analyzing, almost like they’re “studying” how things are going instead of going “all in” with romantic gestures. They could be juggling a lot, maybe between work and personal stuff, and sometimes they’ll struggle to keep everything steady. They’re straightforward but can focus on their own needs first if they feel overwhelmed… They’ll be resilient and loyal once committed but will need reassurance that the relationship is worth their energy. They won’t rush or make bold actions. Because of past experiences, they’ll hold back on fully opening up right away, needing to feel truly secure before they can trust deeply. If you push them too fast, they may pull back, but when they finally commit. Once they’re “all in,” you’ll see a different side of them—you know the saying: “Once bitten, twice shy”.
Will you marry them? It’s unlikely this person will be your future spouse. This relationship will be meaningful and bring personal growth for both of you, but eventually, you’ll find that your paths don’t fully align. They’ll be an important part of your journey tho, teaching you a lot about yourself and what you want, but it looks like you’ll each move on to pursue different futures.
PILE TWO
TRIGGER WARNING: Mentions of abusive behavior. Ooh, to be honest I don’t like the magician reversed. This is going to be the longest reading out of all the piles. Your first romantic partner will be pretty charming, their energy will be contagious and they’ll be really smart. But I believe this person to be really immature when you meet them. For some of you they won’t be a good person. I know you entered here to have your hopes up but sometimes things like this can happen. I sense both of you are avoiding growth and when that happens, the universe brings you closer to certain types of people as a wake up call. Maybe a few of you are still quite young and are more susceptible. With that said let’s get into it:
Personality-wise? Again, charming, smart and energetic/fun. Although I believe sly is the real term here, not so much smart lmao. But they're the type who might have big dreams but when it comes to taking real, consistent action, they lose interest or get distracted. They often rush to conclusions without getting all the facts. They tend to avoid taking real accountability when things go wrong. They can be sneaky about getting their way. For example, if they make a mistake at work or in school, they might cover it up or pass the blame to avoid the fallout. If there’s something they want, they might subtly manipulate situations to make it happen. For instance, instead of directly asking you to skip plans, they might plant seeds of doubt, hoping you’ll change your mind on your own. They might brush off conflicts, hoping they’ll just go away instead of addressing them directly. Again, really charming and sly. They have amazing intuition and quick decision-making skills, but doesn't always use this gift wisely: like catching on quickly when someone isn’t being truthful. But instead of using this insight positively, they might turn it into a way to win conversations or prove themselves right, rather than genuinely helping or connecting.
What will you like about them? Well, to explain this it correlates to your lack of growth. You tend to let your guard down too easily, often sacrificing your own happiness and emotional well-being for the sake of keeping the peace. You're still avoiding some necessary growth and maturity in your life. Even when you feel drained emotionally, you might push those feelings aside rather than setting boundaries or confronting them. So because of this, despite seeing the flaws in their personality, you’re still likely to feel a strong pull toward them. They may frequently talk about personal struggles, past issues, or dramatic events in their life. This could be anything from ongoing issues with friends or family to frustrations at work. You find yourself wanting to understand these layers, even if they never quite resolve them. After peeling those layers, you might find they have an inner resilience in them that will impress you, even if it sometimes comes across as stubborn. Their imaginative way of seeing the world, their charm, their intelligence and their dreams will make you feel like life with them could be exciting and filled with possibilities. Their practicality will fly right above your head (sorry for the drag 😭).
In the relationship? In the beginning, this person may be all about the grand gestures—like planning elaborate date nights, surprising you with meaningful gifts, or saying all the right things that make you feel special. That's why you always gotta be suspicious of the grand gestures, specially if they are too soon in the meeting stages (be careful with love bombing). But as time goes on, they struggle with consistency. Maybe they’re super romantic one week, but the next, they’re distant and non-communicative, leaving you wondering where you stand. They’ll make you feel amazing on a fun night out, but if you need someone to talk to about stress or personal challenges, they might shut down or avoid the topic altogether. Remember the part I mentioned of them avoiding conflicts? Well here it is.
When it comes to routines like regularly checking in about your day or planning a future together, they might become disengaged. They might say things like “Let’s just see where things go”, you know, brushing it off, which is a no-no if you’re looking for stability. If you try to bring up your feelings about the relationship or where things are heading, they might change the subject, become defensive, or pull away rather than engaging with your concerns.
This person is likely to be quite manipulative and somewhat fake in their approach to life. They put up strong barriers and tend to be overly protective of their resources - whether that's time, money, or emotions. To put it simply: they may make you feel like you’re asking for too much even when you want basic attention or support. While they might act tough and logical, they actually struggle with emotional immaturity. Like when their own emotions flare up, they’re likely to overreact or act impulsively, revealing that they actually don’t have good control over their emotions. They tend to be manipulative, using tactics like guilt-tripping, withholding affection, or even silent treatment to get what they want or to keep you feeling off-balance. This person keeps parts of their life hidden or vague, making it hard for you to feel close to them. They might dodge questions about their feelings, where they’ve been, or their plans for the future, giving you a sense that they’re always holding back or hiding something.
Regarding marriage potential - absolutely not. You'll likely feel confused about where you stand with them, and while things might feel dreamy and wish-fulfilling at first, there's a lack of real foundation for something long-term. It might seem picture perfect at first, but when you get closer to it, it looks unstable.
PILE THREE
Personality-wise? Charming and smart. They stand out, unlike pile 2 while they are also charming and intelligent, this traits are not overtly malicious or as badly channeled. Now, for the raw traits: When it comes to commitment, they might seem enthusiastic at first, the will express genuine interest and will make you feel like you’re their main priority. But then, when things get more serious, they could pull back or start questioning the relationship. They will be the type to avoid talking about future plans or shy away from labels, leaving you feeling unsure of where you stand. Also, they tend to overthink. Even small decisions might become a source of stress, as they’re often their own biggest critic. They will be someone grounded and quite stubborn, but they could be highly practical and reliable.
You'll be drawn to their unique mix of maturity and playfulness. You'll admire how they can switch from being super focused on their goals (they are quite ambitious tho) to being spontaneously fun (they’re the type to surprise you with random outings or last-minute plans). They keep things interesting to even the simplest of dates. And if they mess up a dinner they cooked or accidentally get lost while driving, they are the type to laugh it off and turn it into a fun moment rather than stressing about it. Their different perspective on life will intrigue you - they might introduce you to new experiences, hobbies, or ways of thinking that you hadn't considered before. Probably related to their ambitions. While they might not be the most organized or conventionally successful person, you'll find their determination and drive quite attractive. This person will make life feel more exciting and vibrant for you.
In the relationship, they'll show a mix of behaviors. While they can be quite romantic and charming (surprise date nights and buying you your favorite album, cooking your favorite dish or buying you a bouquet of flowers), they also have a tendency to be passive-aggressive when dealing with conflicts. Don't get me wrong, they'll genuinely enjoy making you feel special. But when disagreements arise, they might avoid direct confrontation. Leaving you guessing at what’s really bothering them. They will keep certain feelings or vulnerabilities tucked away, and their career or personal ambitions often take center stage, sometimes at the expense of your relationship. This can lead to moments where you feel like you’re not getting their full attention, or even that they’re not completely transparent about their priorities.
You'll likely meet this person through mutual friends or they can be a childhood friend. A classmate or even a coworker for some of you. However, they can be quite rebellious and threw that with that stubbornness of theirs, they will prefer doing things on their own terms most of the time. Overall, someone set on their ways.
Oh, and whether they're your future spouse - while there's potential for a significant relationship that teaches you a lot about love and yourself, this person is likely not your future spouse. This seems more like a stepping stone that prepares you for your future spouse.
PILE FOUR
Personality-wise? Will be someone who appears strong and protective on the surface, but deep down they will have a sensitive side. They’re resilient and can be emotionally supportive. They are thoughtful, so when life gets tough, they’ll often retreat, not wanting to share their pain or burden anyone else. Ig they’re having a rough week, they might go quiet and pull back from social interactions, choosing to process things alone instead of reaching out.
What you’ll appreciate most about them is their vulnerability and honesty. They’re not perfect and have been through their own heartbreaks, but they’re working to make peace with their past and be open with you. They’ll show you that even with scars, love can grow. Despite sometimes doubting themselves, they’re committed to building something real and meaningful with you, and their willingness to be raw and imperfect is something that will resonate with you deeply.
In the relationship, they'll be quite attentive and nostalgic, often reminiscing about your shared memories - like saving ticket stubs from your first date or recreating special moments. They love celebrating small, meaningful memories and might even keep a box of shared mementos. Think of the type of partner that remembers the anniversaries with a cute meaningful gift (how cute). Will make you feel valued and celebrated. However, they might struggle with expressing vulnerability, sometimes acting controlling due to their own insecurities. They might ask for frequent updates on where you are or get uneasy when you’re spending time with others. Despite this, they'll be emotionally intelligent and caring, even if they may occasionally get lost in their own fears and even anxieties. They’re generally good at reading your feelings and are caring, but they sometimes get lost in their own worries. Like, they might overthink something you said or get stuck in anxious thoughts about the relationship, which can occasionally affect their mood. But I do believe you can easily bring them out of it with communication.
Your first romantic partner will be an adventurous and passionate person. While they sometimes feel stuck in their own mental barriers (like overthinking everything before making a move), they're actually quite successful and satisfied with their life when you meet them. Professionally or in their personal achievements, they’re doing well—maybe they’ve landed a good job, run a successful business, or already reached their dreams. But despite this confidence in other areas, they’ll often hesitate when it comes to romance. They might double-check a message before hitting send or worry too much about saying the “right” thing to you. They probably had some traumatic experiences tho, I sense a difficult upbringing or maybe they were victims of cheating. This makes them careful, sometimes overly so.
Will you marry them? It's not set in stone. So this will likely be a very important and impactful connection to you. A very few of you will get marry to them. The other majority of you will not. You'll both feel a strong pull toward each other, and with patience and dedication, this could lead to something lasting. While there's potential, there are those trust issues to work through first, so it is not going to be a smooth sailing. For a majority of you this can actually be the problem that will pull you apart: the trust issues and unresolved past heartbreaks.
PILE FIVE
Personality-wise? They're emotionally mature and logical, someone who's broken free from toxic patterns in their past (yay! finally!). In emotional situations, they’re likely to stay calm and look for practical solutions. Say you have a disagreement—they won’t get caught up in the heat of the moment but will try to address it diplomatically and with logic. Your first romantic partner seems to be someone who approaches relationships with a level-headed mindset, someone known to keep their emotions under control (not hiding them though nor in a controlling way). They value independence and will not be hesitant to leave what doesn't work for them (love this). Previous experiences have taught them to put their own well-being first. If something feels strange, they don't hesitate to speak out or take a break to evaluate things for a moment. This could be a person who has dealt with some unhealthy partners in their past, and they’re now committed to keep their peace intact and avoid a relationship that could become possessive (controlling) or too emotionally draining. They’ll avoid possessiveness and try not to cling, wanting a partnership that’s healthy and balanced. Someone that knows when to step back if things aren’t working and isn’t easily swayed by sentimentality (while still remaining caring and responsible).
In your relationship, they might struggle with long-term planning at first, but they're genuinely invested in building something stable with you. For example, if you mention planning a big trip together in the distant future, they might say, “Let’s see where we’re at when the time comes.” This isn’t necessarily a lack of interest but reflects their cautious approach to long-term planning until they feel completely sure. They'll be direct in their communication - sometimes almost too direct! (lmao) - and while they take their time processing things (like that awkward pause when you ask about meeting their family), once they make up their mind, they move forward with conviction. Like imagine you ask them: Hey what are we? and they reply with something straightforward like, “I really like you, but I’m figuring out how we fit into each other’s lives.” They won’t sugarcoat or hold back to please you, they will prefer to be honest and clear about their intentions (I mean, sounds great tho). Because once they are in, they will BE fully in.
You'll like that they are passionate, driven and willing. But when it comes to personal matters, especially about themselves, they might downplay their own accomplishments lmao (yk, humble). And at the same time someone that completely changes your perspective on love. They build trust slowly. You may find that they take small steps over time to reveal personal details, like sharing a meaningful childhood memory after several months together. They’re careful about building trust, so their reserved side isn’t disinterest—it’s simply their way of ensuring stability and safety in relationships. So if you ask them what’s wrong they'll be pretty honest with you and won’t play any games unlike previous piles. They're also determined to overcome their challenges and aren't afraid to go after what they want. They’re not the type to give up on a goal or dream, whether that’s in work, personal growth, or the relationship itself. You’ll likely notice that they’re committed to improving themselves and won’t let insecurities hold them back for long.
Will you marry them? As for whether they’re your future spouse, the potential is definitely there. Higher than the other piles.