Starting To Do Quadrobics Again Was One Of The Best Decisions Ive Made Recently, Along With Starting

cats in dollhouses

As a romo-repulsed, getting perceived as romantically desiring feels like a straight up assault to my rights huh??

MAN THIS QUADROBICS SHIT IS HARD

i've been improving at walking by pacing around my room, and can even hop a little bit. so i decided to get brave today and found a trail that i could go to to practice more. i found a cool little grove where i could walk around and no one could see me because of all the trees and logs.

it was fun, but hoLY FUCK MY ARMS HURT. they nearly gave out on me in the middle of walking. i think i've overdone it...

While separating relationships into strictly sexual, platonic, or romantic or some combination of those is fine for understanding the aromantic and asexual spectrum at a basic level, we must eventually understand that some relationships will never fit into these categories and often queer relationships are more complex than that, and our definition of queer relationships must include abstract relationships. As a community based on gender anarchy, debasing gender roles, and freedom to love how we will, we have to move away from immediately defining relationships.

Being a ranger I spend a lot of time alone in the wilderness for hours in the company of one of four co workers.

One such worker for the purpose of this post we shall refer to as Dave.

Dave is a very quiet man. He confesses that if conversation happens too quickly and for too long he gets tired so we often work in silence. He's very polite and good natured but it's obvious that he would happily live and work alone for the rest of his life given the option.

He's very much in the previous generation of ranger, a practical man in his fourties or fifties happy to be kept physically busy for a day and then be sent home with some pay. I had to show him how to use a work issued smart phone.

Meanwhile the rest of the team is made up of the current generation of rangers; openly nurodivergent queer women in their twenties or thirties who work this job because it's the only setting where we can vaguely look sane.

So Dave sticks out a bit. It's really nice when he opens up though because he's an impulsive individual when left to his own devices and has plenty of stories to tell if the mood takes him. I really like working with Dave.

Anyway, one day we've got a job that takes a three hour hike to get to and early on the topic of deer comes up.

I hadn't realised this was the first time we had discussed deer, but blatantly it was. Dave's entire demeanour changes, there's a bit of passion in his voice, but it's also hushed as if he's talking about something sacred.

"Deer are my favourite animal." He says.

I'm also eager to hear Dave talk about himself, so I encourage him to say more.

"I'd love to be a deer myself."

And more

"If a genie offered me the opportunity to become a deer I'd take it. I wouldn't even stop to ask what the price was."

And more

"Sometimes I feel like I'm a deer having a dream about being a human.*

And there I am, a long time commuter to the therian/otherkin community keeping up the encouraging face of someone being politely interested, knowing that this man is straight up a therian with no frame of reference.

And I decided that I wouldn't push the subject outside of the bounds of what Dave is comfortable with, I wouldn't try to teach him the terms "Therian" or "Otherkin" but absolutely I would talk with this man as if he's a deer.

And it's a bit magical really. He's an impulsive individual so I have to talk him out of some risky choices every so often and "this is why deer like you keep getting stuck in fences" has become this magical phrase that allows him to step down from a mistake with a bit of a smile on his face.

meet the gang

Polycule but it’s just two people in a romantic relationship with each other and their third who’s pretty obviously aroace but also somehow so deeply intertwined in their lives that it’d just be wrong to not count them as involved. Is this anything.

bro relatable

never learn quads i want to walk on all fours everywhere now

Can I not break the curse?

Shrek wrote the correct ending

it irks me when i see discussions about dissociative disorders and they’re only exclusively focused on DID or OSDD.

the only reason folk may very rarely even try to mention or consider DPDR is to use it as another throw-away example. it’s used in arguments as a gotcha and then never mentioned again, never taken into account. i’ve seen individuals explain their experience in a way that fits so perfectly with DPDR and yet it’s so overshadowed by the other more complex dissociative disorders that they may not even take a moment to consider it an option…

non-plural dissociative folk exist, and we deserve a place too