idek1man
Just a horny sideblog; 25,F, Dutch
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Being friends with a guy who's playfully roughhousing with me, we get into half joking wrestling matches that I usually lose. But I get cocky; taunting him cause I'm bored, insisting 'I've been working out, I can tooootallyy take you! Easy!' something about seeing me brag just flips a switch in him.
An hour later, his fingers are in my mouth while I gag and drool, my eyes rolling back in my head while he fucks into me from behind forcefully. His arm's round my stomach to keep me up and keep me still, I'm barely taking half of his boner and already whimpering like a bitch. 'What? I thought you said you could take me? Were you all talk, huh?'
Need a guy to show me the difference in our physical strength. Hold me down with one hand as you fuck me. Flip me over without hesitation. Bend my body however you want. Manhandle me. Use me like a fleshlight. Show me I'm just a toy to you.
Pretty sure you’re supposed to wrap your arms around my waist and pound up into me. But what do I know
Manhandling them though. Yanking them by their ankles until they reach the edge of the bed. Slamming and pinning them to the nearest surface. Throwing them over my shoulder to carry. Bending them over any furniture. Grabbing them by their nape and then tossing them on the bed.
Spreading their legs apart. Holding them down by their hips, or using my weight. Flipping them over to my liking, as if they’re a lifeless piece of meat. I could take them in so many different ways. I’ll /make/ them take me, even if it involves twisting them beyond human limits.
So much smaller compared to me, so helpless, of course they’re easy to overpower. I wonder how much more pressure I need to apply before their delicate and fragile self breaks right in my hands.
Pinning you face down ass up and grinding my crotch against your ass while I force my fingers inside you from behind until you're a desperate, drooling needy mess begging me to breed you.
Folding her into a mating press as she begs for me to finish inside of her...
Spanking her as I'm fucking her against the wall...
Making her soak through her underwear at the thought of me...
Sliding my hand up her thigh in public, moving farther and farther up her skirt...
Hearing her breath catch in her throat as I start to feel how wet I've gotten her~
...large palm splayed out on your abdomen while he slowly fucks into you, chuckling every time you whine. Pressing down just a little as he coos about how full you must be...
Honestly I just want a day full of sex. We don’t leave the bed unless it’s to get food, and all we do is watch tv and fuck… hard, soft, passionate and dirty… And I wanna end the day exhausted and satisfied
Sometimes it's a "slam me onto the bed and spread my legs so I drop my attitude" kinda day.
giggly cuddling that turns into play fighting that turns into you pinning me down and saying “try it. try to get away.” that turns into me struggling and cursing at you while you push inside me
⚠️ Warning Signs of Dangerous and Unethical BDSM Practices
Entering the world of BDSM can be beautiful, empowering, and healing. But stepping into this world also means stepping into vulnerability. And where there is vulnerability, there will unfortunately always be those who seek to exploit it.
I write this not just as someone who knows the rules, but as someone who has seen the consequences when they are broken. I have witnessed red flags ignored, hearts broken, and gentle souls hurt by people who have no place in the BDSM community. I write this for every person I have seen wounded, and for every kind soul out there still searching for their place. I want to protect you by giving you the armor of seeing the warning signs, and the strength and support to walk away when something feels wrong.
Because it's important to know that not everyone who calls themselves a Dominant or Submissive has earned that title. There are those who will misuse these dynamics to excuse abuse, manipulation, and harm, by disguising cruelty as "kink."
If you are exploring, whether for the first time or after carrying the scars of past experiences, hear me now: You deserve to be safe. You deserve to be cherished. You deserve to be protected.
This guide was created not to frighten you, but to arm you, and to remind you: You are never wrong for protecting yourself. You are never wrong for walking away. Recognizing red flags does not make you cold, suspicious, or “too much.” It makes you wise.
So read this post not with fear, but with the strength of knowing you are worth more than those who would misuse your trust.
🚩 Red Flags in Dominants You Should Never Ignore
Refuses to discuss boundaries, safewords, or consent. A healthy Dominant welcomes clear communication about what you want, need, and do not consent to. If someone brushes it off, jokes about it, or tells you that "real" submission means you don't need a safeword, leave.
Removes aftercare or safewords as a form of punishment. A real, ethical Dominant will never take away your safeword or aftercare as punishment. Safewords are your lifeline, they protect your safety, sanity, and autonomy. Aftercare is vital for your emotional and physical well-being after intense scenes. These are non-negotiable rights, not rewards to be given or taken based on behavior. If anyone threatens to remove or deny your safeword or aftercare as a punishment: Walk away. You are not dealing with a Dominant. You are facing an abuser.
Pushes you into dynamics or activities you haven't agreed to. Consent must be enthusiastic and informed, not manipulated, guilted, or assumed.
Tells you that "good" submissives have no limits. You are not "bad" or "less" if you have limits. Limits are normal, healthy, and necessary.
Demands submission before trust is established. True submission is earned, not taken. A Dominant who pressures you to submit early on is not interested in your well-being, only in their control.
Dismisses aftercare as unnecessary. Aftercare is not a luxury; it's a vital part of ethical BDSM. Your emotional, mental, and physical care matters after a scene.
Demands titles (like "Mistress," "Mommy," etc.) immediately without your agreement. Titles should always be discussed, offered and accepted with consent. They are not automatic or owed.
Becomes angry or punishing when you express discomfort, ask questions, or say no. A safe Dominant will never punish you for advocating for yourself.
Is vague about their experience, references, or past partners. A Dominant with integrity will be transparent about their journey, including mistakes they've done and/or learned from.
Romanticizes or encourages unsafe practices like CNC (Consensual Non-Consent) without deep negotiation and a very strong trust foundation. CNC can be beautiful only when it is deeply negotiated and handled with extreme care. Anyone rushing into it or treating it casually is dangerous.
Plays while angry, drunk, or under the influence. Impaired judgment has no place in BDSM. Ever.
Disrespects your existing relationships, commitments, or mental health needs. A caring Dominant honors all parts of your life, not just the parts they want access to.
🚩 Red Flags in a Submissive
No Respect for Their Own Limits. A submissive who says "I have no limits" or refuses to talk about boundaries is unsafe, for themselves and for you. Everyone has limits. A refusal to acknowledge them shows inexperience, misunderstanding, or emotional instability.
Pushes for Instant Intensity. Asking for intense scenes, dangerous play (like CNC, breathplay, or heavy impact) immediately shows a lack of understanding of trust, safety, and connection. A good submissive respects the importance of pacing and building trust.
Disregards Negotiation. If they rush past important conversations about safewords, triggers, expectations, or needs, it’s a sign they may not be ready for BDSM in a healthy way.
No Safeword Agreement. A submissive refusing to use a safeword because they "want to be broken" or "don't want to stop" ignores that BDSM should be mutually safe and consensual.
Manipulation for Attention. Using guilt, self-harm threats, or emotional blackmail to get more dominance, control, or attention is abusive behavior, not submission.
Treats Submission Like a Transaction. "If I do this, you owe me that" thinking is incompatible with healthy dynamics. Submission is a gift, not a bargain for affection or attention.
Disrespecting Your Boundaries as a Dominant. A submissive who begs for things you have clearly said you are not comfortable with (pushing your own limits) is not respecting you. Dominants have limits too, and they matter just as much.
Fetishizing or Dehumanizing Dominants. Seeing Dominants only as fantasy objects ("you're just a tool for my needs") instead of real people with feelings and needs can lead to harmful, one-sided dynamics.
Poor Communication After Scenes. Refusing to give feedback, withdrawing emotionally without warning, or refusing aftercare conversations can damage trust and connection.
🚩 Dangerous Practices
Ignoring safe calls/check-ins: Especially for early meetings, safe calls (someone checking on you) are crucial.
Edgeplay with no prior experience or safety measures: Breathplay, knife play, or psychological edgeplay should only be explored with extensive education, experience, and deep trust.
Isolation tactics: If someone tries to cut you off from friends, family, or community, they are not protecting you, they are trapping you.
Public play without your clear consent: No one has the right to involve you in kink scenes or exposure without your enthusiastic yes.
No aftercare planning: Emotional and physical care after a scene is part of ethical BDSM. Its absence can leave lasting harm.
No emergency knowledge or tools. Lack of basics like safety shears during bondage scenes, or not knowing how to respond to medical emergencies (like fainting, nerve compression, panic attacks) shows dangerous irresponsibility.
Consent to One Thing, Doing Another. If someone agrees to one act but then escalates to something riskier or unrelated without asking, that is violating consent and sexual assault.
What a Healthy, Ethical Dominant Looks Like
Consistently respects your autonomy, boundaries, and voice.
Communicates openly, patiently, and invites your questions.
Treats your consent as sacred, not optional.
Prioritizes your safety, emotional health, and aftercare needs.
Understands that dominance is service, responsibility, and care, not power for power’s sake.
Grows with you. Listens, adapts, and values your humanity first.
What a Healthy, Ethical Submissive Looks Like
Honors their own limits and communicates them regularly.
Engages in thoughtful negotiation instead of rushing into intense scenes without discussion.
Uses safewords and communication tools responsibly.
Respects the Dominant’s boundaries and humanity.
Owns their emotional well-being.
Approaches submission as a gift of trust and growth.
Values ongoing consent and connection.
True BDSM is based on
Informed and respected consent
Trust and mutual care
Respect for limits
Constant communication
Ongoing negotiation
There is no kink so “hardcore” that it should ever ignore safety or consent. Ever.
A Gentle Reminder
You are not "too much" for having boundaries. You are not "too needy" for wanting aftercare. You are not "too difficult" for wanting to feel safe and respected. You are allowed and encouraged to walk away the moment something feels wrong. You deserve a dynamic that lifts you, protects you, and cherishes you.
And if you ever feel unsure or currently in an unsafe dynamic, reach out to trusted friends, help lines, or community spaces where ethical BDSM is practiced and discussed, for help. You are never alone.
Stay safe. Stay empowered. And above all, stay loved. 🤍
I need a play date. BAD.
One of my favorite students said to me
"Yeah, your account is really interesting to me. Almost like a psychological experiment: openly horny professor and all of the touch-starved girls who are into horny professors."
And now I can't shake this thought out of my head...
HOW TO SUCK DICK
If you simply wanted to get a guy off as quickly as possible, all you need to do is lock your lips at the base of his cock and suction them up and down the bottom ¾ of his shaft at a quick, steady pace while pressing your flattened tongue against the underside of his dick. Make sure you are applying pressure with both your lips AND tongue. Keeping your tongue engaged at all times is key. I try to keep mine moving at all times. This is how you get 90% of guys off. It helps me keep from gagging to hold his cock steady at the base and bring my lips down to meet my fingers. You can do this very slowly for a more intense feeling, but make sure you move at a steady rhythm. Some guys like it faster or slower; you may have to ask, or more likely, he’ll tell you. This is your power move, the one that is actually going to bring him to orgasm. A true hooker blowjob needs only this one move; if scientists were to create a blowjob machine, this is what it would do. The other moves I’m going to teach you are artistic flourishes; you use them to add flair and style to your blowjob or to slow down the action a little. SALIVA Don’t be afraid to just slobber all over his love muscle. It should be as wet and sloppy as possible, especially during your power move. A good blowjob makes loud, gross suction-y noises. When I’m done, I’m usually covered in my own drool and leave a wet spot on the bed. USING YOUR HANDS If his dick is too big for you to take the whole thing in your mouth, you’ll need to use your hand too. Slobber all over his cock for awhile first so your hand will slide easily up and down instead of just catching on his dry skin. The most important hand move is the twister. When you slide your hand up his shaft, twist your wrist. A twisting motion gets you into a smoother rhythm than the straight up and down. Slide your hand up and down on the base of his cock in conjunction with your mouth moving up and down on the rest of it. The hard part is finding the correct grip: again you may want his guidance. Another good trick is to wrap your hand around the top of his cock and put your mouth over your hand. Then slide your hand down the shaft and your mouth down on top of it in a fluid motion until your hand meets the base of his cock. It will feel like you’re sliding your mouth all the way down him even if you can’t. It’s times like these I wish I could draw; I’d make little diagrams. THE BALLS I usually start out by paying some attention to the balls. There are three basic ball moves: you can put them in your mouth and suck them (LIGHTLY), lick them with a flattened cow tongue, or tense your tongue into a point and run the tip of your tongue all over them. I alternate between all three. Sometimes I lift them up and lick underneath his balls. Also, if you cup them while you are entering the home stretch, you’ll be able to tell he’s about to cum as they get higher and tighter. THE HEAD My next move is usually to give his shaft several long licks from base to tip. This is the ice cream cone move; it looks sexy, it’s a nice touch, but it’s not going to make anybody cum. While conducting the power move, I come up from time to time to give the head a little attention: sucking on it, moving my tongue in a circle around it, and flicking my tongue over that spot on the underside that all the sex websites tell you is el sensitivo. In my experience, guys don’t really go that wild over attention to that spot, but these are just flourishes anyway. I tend to get a bit wrapped up in my work that I forget to make eye contact, so head action is a great time to look up at him with puppy dog eyes and his cock in your mouth. FACE SLAPPING I mentioned this in my tips to get him to cum faster, but at least once during the beej, I usually pop his dick out of my mouth and slap it against my tongue or face, then look at him while I rub his cock against my cheeks and lips. Guys are visual, this is just a little something dirty for him to look at. DEEP THROAT I can’t really teach you how to deep throat, that’s between you and your gag reflex. The important thing, I think, is to make an effort to take him in as deep as you can, even if it’s only for a few seconds. It’s hard to explain exactly how I do this: try concentrating on relaxing your throat and jaw. As I mentioned before, it helps me to steady his cock with my hand when I go deep, and breathing in instead of just holding your breath also helps abate that “gonna puke” feeling. THE BIG FINALE When you’re ready to finish him off, go into the power move and don’t vary your pace for anything. If you’re cupping his balls, you’ll often be able to tell when he’s about to cum as they tighten up. I speed up a little bit at the end, and when I feel him start to come I push my head down as deep as it will go and suck slowly and intensely at the base, letting his cum just shoot down my throat.
Sorry I growled and bit your shoulder when I felt how soft and warm and wet and tight and oh god it's happening again.
being fucked so hard from behind that you collapse forward and then they lean over you and use their weight to keep you completely pinned so you can’t do anything but whine and take it
really been craving play fighting with a much larger mutt that gets a little too rough. he's just so much bigger than me and i put up a good fight but before long he's got me pinned underneath him. at the same moment he shifts his weight, probably to get a better grip on my wrists, i bucked up into him in a last ditch attempt at getting away. my ass rubs against the bulge in his pants and we both go still. his breathing quickens, his grip tightens and he drapes himself on top of me and bites down on my neck, hard enough to make me start trying to escape again. i know he won't be letting me go anytime soon
idk just been thinking a lot lately about someone fucking their knot into me while they've got me pinned with their teeth around my throat, like their favorite toy they like to rut against
Fucking you will never be enough I need to push myself so far inside you that your tummy bulges and your entire body uncontrollably spasms. I need to feel you trembling on my dick until you scream and cry from the overstimulation.
Going to have you right here, right now
One of the best thing about size difference is when you’re genuinely trying to fight them and you realize that they are really just so much stronger than you, that they really could overpower you and take you if they wanted to, and the only thing standing between you and that is the trust you have in them not to go too far. Because they wouldn’t take advantage of how helpless you are under them… right?
Well, I heard you're back together and if that's true You'll just have to taste me when he's kissin' you If you want forever, I bet you do (I bet you do) Just know you'll taste me too
SABRINA CARPENTER and JENNA ORTEGA — Sabrina Carpenter: Taste (Official Video)
LAYER CAKE (2004)
DANIEL CRAIG’S FILMOGRAPHY
as George Dyer in Love Is the Devil: Study for a Portrait of Francis Bacon (1998) as Alex West in Lara Croft: Tomb Raider (2001) as XXXX in Layer Cake (2004) as James Bond in Casino Royale (2006) as James Bond in Quantum of Solace (2008) as James Bond in No Time to Die (2021)
