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mindset shift that changed my perspective on the journey to reaching my goals
1. words have power instead of seeing your efforts as strict discipline, begin to view them as acts of devotion to yourself and your dreams. your goals are a labor of love, not a chore. you don’t NEED to be disciplined, you need to be LOVINGLY devoted to yourself.
2. honor your goals devotion IS love and when you are devoted to something, you care deeply about it. applying this to your goals means you are treating them with the proper respect and love, not just as tasks to be checked off. it is not hard work, it is self love.
3. stop trying to follow others their path isn’t your path & what worked for them probably won’t work for you. cater your daily goals to YOU. don't follow their exact diet & add your favorite healthy food to it, eat it in your favorite plate, make a ritual out of it. honor it.
4. embrace failure have ambitious goals but don’t punish yourself for not achieving them. aim high, and if you fail, reflect on why. adjust what didn't work. failure is a part of the journey, not the end of it. with devotion, you see failure as a step forward, not a setback.
5. taking accountability instead of punishing yourself if you ruined your diet today, sit with your actions and allow yourself to feel those emotions, including any shame. but then, be kind to yourself and move on. stop fearing that you will fail again and trust yourself.
6. believe in yourself. this method works because it builds self-confidence. the more you practice & succeed, the more you trust yourself. by being devoted to your life, things just fall into place. *i’m not afraid of failure bc i know that, in the end, i will succeed as I always do.*
7. doing the hard things isn't hard do the hard things because your future self will thank you for it. be a gentle caregiver to yourself and give yourself the best. facing challenges that lead to rewards isn't just difficult, it's simply what you deserve for your devotion.
8. start implementing things you love into the hard things. don't like going on a walk? find something that you like about the place you go to. i personally pick flowers for my room. go visit a monument. go shopping. instead of feeling guilty about enjoying a non planned meal, allow urself to enjoy it by making an event out of it. go to a beautiful place, eat it & get something productive done. replace the guilt w/ productivity.
9. reflect on your progress after succeeding realize that the thing you dreaded doing has become a pleasant activity that you now look forward to. keep doing it. watch yourself become the person that you have always wanted to be.
10. research goes a long way. when studying a particular subject that isn't of your particular interest at the moment start reframing it as working on your own self concept and self mythology. knowledge is power. become interested by it, everything has value. and make the space you study in beautiful.
Ways to Heal the Nervous System 🌻
A consistent sleep schedule
Morning Walks
Avoid scrolling on social media.
Engage in physical activity
Stay Hydrated
Mindful meditation
Spend time in nature
Breath-Work
Spend time with safe people
Less Envy More Contentment
Help others. Happy people are known to not only be content with their lives but to love improving the lives of others.
Love yourself. This is an important factor in how you can sustain the contentment in your life.
Try something completely new. Doing something completely new and out of your comfort zone will make you open up your mind and have a less rigid view of how confusing life is and lean more into being creative.
Enjoy failing. That's right. If you want to be content with your life, then you have to completely fail at something to learn and grow.
Hang out with people who are content with their lives.
Stock up on value for self. To eliminate the feelings of insecurity, stop focusing on what you think you do not have. And realize there's no competition in your world. You are unbelievably powerful and full of light already.
Stay independent. Sure, you may feel that your life is nothing without your partner but that does not mean that you should be overly dependent on them.
Have faith in your love as a couple. Do you think your guy was flirting with the girl at the restaurant yesterday? Maybe it happened, and perhaps it did not.
Find out why you are jealous. Statistics show that most people are jealous and insecure in their current relationships because of what they went through with their previous partners.
Never play games. Most jealous people will try to make themselves feel better by finding ways to make their partner jealous.
Identify When the Change Happened. The first step in getting back to happiness is to determine what really makes you happy in the first place.
Don’t Fake it. The next step is to not try to fake happiness. Fake it ‘til you make it is not real life. Let yourself respond authentically to each moment as it arrives, without bound to the narrative of who you think you are!
Take Responsibility If you’re unhappy, will you take responsibility for turning this around? I think taking responsibility is the most powerful attribute we can possess in life.
What’s Standing in Your Way? To discover your happiness and allow yourself to experience the full gamut of being human, you need to determine what is standing towards being your greatest self.
Be Kind to Yourself. As you carry on throughout this journey, you need to recognize the points in which you can be kind towards yourself.
In judging yourself, your life, your body, and your belongings as 'not as good as' or 'better than' (the only two verdicts in a comparison!), you limit yourself and your capability to appreciate change as life goes on. We grow as life changes. Our experiences shape us into a new person. Its beautiful ♥
Let’s work on communicating our insecurities and feelings instead of accusing our loved ones. Making accusations can damage our relationships and isn’t fair to our loved ones.
Try saying “I’m scared I’m going to be alone” instead of “you’re going to leave me like everyone else”.
Try saying “I’m sorry I hurt your feelings. I feel bad about it. Is there anything I can do to help make this better?” instead of “I’m such a failure and a bad person. You shouldn’t be friends with me anymore.”
Try saying “I’m feeling really alone lately. Can we talk more?” instead of “you never talk to me. You must not care about me.”
Our loved ones can’t read our minds. No matter how obvious it might seem to us that we’re struggling, it isn’t necessarily obvious to them. And there are any number of reasons that they might not notice, or might notice and not react (such as trying to respect that they think you don’t want to talk about it and will come to them when you’re ready.)
Your feelings are valid. Your insecurities are valid. But it’s better to deal with these by seeking reassurance in healthy ways or coping mechanisms like self-soothing instead of accusing those you love of bad intentions.
yall i miss websites that i used as a middle schooler like wattpad and quotev, and weheartit, but big corporate turned these fun cute quirky pages into a sad boring places. And other sites like insta, twitter, tiktok are so mainstream to use and its disappointing that the internet has changed so much and kids today wont experience the thrill of having fun online anymore :(
You're gonna be ok. It will be fine. Things will sort themselves out. It's gonna be fine. You will be just fine. You're allowed to stop stressing.
Frank O'Hara, from “Biotherm (for Bill Berkson)”, The Collected Poems
yesterday at the game shop someone asked me when I started 3D printing. I told them a couple years ago, it was really easy to get into, sometimes I make things for commission, etc etc
then this person, this child, looked me square in the face and said "do you think it's too late for me to start? I'm almost 17..."
17
almost 17
ALMOST. SEVEN. TEEN.
when I tell you my soul left my body over this child, this mere not-even-17 year old, thinking they were already too old to start a new hobby, lemme tell you, I did not know how to respond
so i need yall to repeat after me
it is never too late to start a new hobby
it is never too late to start a new hobby!
it is never too late to start a new hobby!!
you wanna learn to crochet at 47? go off king! learn to paint at 69? nice! learn embroidery on your death bed?? it is literally never too late!! you don't even have to be good. it's absolutely wonderful to see people who are just ok or even bad at something doing that something unabashedly and at whatever age they happen to be
Stop scrolling for a minute, take a deep breath. Come and sit down with me for a minute, I’ll make us some tea. It’s a quiet morning, apart from the birds of course. We can sit here for a while, we can chat or just pass the time of day. Or we can go for a walk if you want, my dog can come with us. She doesn’t walk very fast but it will give us time to take in the wildflowers as we go. Or we can go into town and wonder around the secondhand bookstores because there are so many stories we haven’t read yet. And there is something magical about secondhand books, knowing they’ve been loved before. Time passes slowly here, there’s no where to be. Remember no matter how bad things seem, everything will be okay. You’re safe here, darling. Stay as long as you like and you can always come back. Chin up, my love. You’re going to be just fine.
being a person in your 20s is like being 40 and being 16 at the same time. i am simultaneously too old and too young for this shit
punk tactics
Meows Morales?!
(order as a print here)
has this been done yet
Seeing spider verse with my little sister
remember <3
my younger self would think I'm so brave (cause I am)
no matter where you're at in your life, there's always time for things to improve. even if you feel lost, stuck or left behind, you have the time to build a life you want. you may not get back the years you've lost, but you will have many years to live contentedly. there is more than this darkness & you have the time to see what else there is, in whatever form that is for you. simply put, life is not meant to be this hard. things will get easier, softer, brighter.
you got this.
the thing about having hope is that it is so so so so so so so so so so so so so so so so so difficult. but you have to do it anyway
honestly the human brain is so small that you *will* forget how much beauty there is out there to experience unless you leave your house every three days. ik its fucked up but i promise its true
sudden urge to burst into tears. im not a toddler i just agree with their beliefs
whatever i literally dont care 😎 <- cares so much that it feels like my organs are tearing themselves apart in my chest
the sexual tension between a 20something year old and having emotional stability
I ain’t never been this tired of people in my life
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