Ace Spec - Blog Posts
I feel like such an asexual stereotype
I just ate like 2 pieces of stale garlic bread and honestly thinking about it, I’d eat that over having sex any day. Feels so stereotypical since I’m asexual (under the umbrella), but I’d have a strawberry shortcake or day old garlic bread over sex any day. Very happy to learn that those memes weren’t over exaggerating lol
Reblog if you genuinely support asexuals
It terrifies me that there’s so much raging passion in the lgbt+ community that insist on marginalizing asexuals and implying that asexuals don’t deserve to have safe spaces. There’s still so much acephobia so I just wanna know which blogs are genuinely supportive and a safe space for asexuals
TUMBLRINAS I NEED YOUR HELP!! I’m writing an essay about expectations surrounding romance through the lens of aspec identities for my creative nonfiction class. I have several short interview type questions and I’m trying to collect as many responses as possible.
If you identify as asexual, aromantic, or anywhere on the spectrum pls consider taking a look at this google form:
I'm writing a fic and I've done some surface level research on the stuff so I figured I'd ask here too for people on the acespec (is that what's it called??) (—specifically for people in qprs)
how did you like realize you didn't actually want a romantic relationship but a qpr one?? how did ygs sort your feelings out? (and how did you 'confess' that to the other person or is it like??)
I hope I'm not being disrespectful! thank you!!!!!!:33
This, just this.
"Amatonormativity permeates more than TV shows and books. It is woven into our legal rights, creating forms of discrimination that become more and more apparent as people age. Romantic love within marriage confers privileges that other forms of devotion cannot, including over 1,100 laws that benefit married couples at the federal level. Spouses can share each other’s health insurance, as well as military, social security, and disability benefits. They can make medical decisions for each other. Companies grant bereavement leave for spouses, no questions asked, but there will be more hesitation if leave is requested for a mere friend. It is possible to marry a stranger and give them your health insurance but not possible to give health insurance to a parent...
Criteria based on sex made sense when the main purpose of marriage was to merge fortunes and produce children, but today...marriage is more about a match of devotion than a match of trade. In many cases, the point is no longer to create an heir and a spare. Plenty of married couples don’t have children (or sex, for that matter), and bad marriages with little caring are common...
Offering legal and social benefits only to the romantically attached suggests that the mere presence of romantic feeling elevates the care and deserves special protections, even though friendship and other forms of care, which can come with less obligation, can include more love, more freely given. Therefore, the legal and social privileges of marriage should be extended to all mutually consenting adults who wish for them...
'In terms of policy, marriage law really reaches into all areas of law, like tax and immigration and property,' ... 'It doesn’t matter if it’s different-sex only or same-sex marriage, so long as we restrict marriage to romantic and sexual partners we will ensure amatonormativity.' Reforming marriage law by abolishing it altogether or extending marriage-like rights to friends (to small groups or networks) is one way to eradicate discrimination."
Angela Chen, Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex
I just saw someone say "Ace people get all the rep." And I'm just????? What the hell are you even talking about?????
I can think of two ace characters.
Saiki K, and that one person from Heartstopper
I know that's not all of the canon ace characters out there, but as someone who doesn't.t interact with any inherently queer media (it's all romance based. Gross and boring, coming from an aromantic person.), that's all I can come up with.
How the fuck is that "all of the rep"?
All about me thingy
Whenever i hear my friends talk about crushes or relationships i get really confused. Like, one of my friends was talking about how this guy (one he's hard-core pining for) called him "dear", and how happy(?) he was about it. And i'm just ???What???? Why is that good?? it just sounds really uncomfortable to me,,, Like i get platonic(?) crushes, i've had many of those, but i lack much understanding of romantic ones...
Being touched is for dorks (i'm just autistic)
the backlight doesn't show up well in places (hm go figure, black backlighting and also it's bright outside) but here's the aesthetic!
Programmed like so:
I still think it turned out neat in the end. (And the black part is still backlit, interestingly enough, so when it *is* dark I can still see my keyboard.)
me and my ace backlit keyboard 🟪🟣💜🖤⚫♣️♠️🟪◾◼️▪️✒️🖤🩶🤍💜▫️◻️◽🎵🎶⚪⬜🔳🪨🌫️🌪️🪽🎹⌨️💿☂️🌂⛓️📎🖇️📓📄✉️🔮🎵🎶🎼➰
🎼🌫️◻️🎵♣️🖇️🪽🔮📓💿📄☂️
It funny how I was able to accept that I was ace, granted I was in denial about it for some time. Then I realized I was aro and was like...”NONONO...I know I have no desire to date anyone, but NONONONONONONOnonono....I haven’t dated anyone...I don’t know what a crush feels like, let alone attraction!!! I’ve never had any fantasies!!! Wait-...people fantasize ABOUT ONE ANOTHER?!! I wouldn’t date any stranger or my friends!!!” and then I had the most funny thought at a certain point (before I knew the term aromantic) and it was, “Well maybe if I move countries I’ll be able to fall in love!!!!”, and meanwhile when romance/sex would show up in media I’d be like “Where is the plot?! Why did we lose the plot?! People actually want this?! WAIT-?! Do people act like this?!”. I also thought people were just deadass lying when they said they experienced crushes in kindergarten, which they probably weren’t lying. I will say though I do love food. I mean pesto is an absolute god. Chocolate is amazing (though if don’t like chocolate that’s cool too, same with any other food). But bread...oh my god! I love naan, rolls, and most breads.
Am I gonna talk about my aroace-ness again? Yes, yes I will
I fucking love being aroace. I may be a teen and others may be falling in love and doing the big sex (I find sex funny cause I don’t get it, but good for them). I am perfectly content with all my friends and I love them to the earth, the moon, the stars, the vast universe, and all the way back again. I love to hear their stories and their perceptions. I could gush over all my friends all day. I’m glad that I don’t have to deal with as much drama due to lack of interest and attraction. Also good for other aros who feel little attraction and good for aros who still want relationships, ya’ll do be swell. That about wraps it up :)
The struggles real, am I right?
Being polyamorous while also being aroace has been the most confusing shit of my life. I just wanna vibe in a polycule and I want to feel cared for. I feel cared for my friends at the moment, so I’m okay now, but it’d be nice in the future, cause I don’t wanna live alone. I really shoulda known I was aro though....like the signs were so obvious...and ace even more obvious. I am glad though that I basically embody chaos at this point.
I have a question, so I feel physical attraction, but not in a sexual way? Like I still have urges and I feel that I could do that with someone after getting to know them but I still have crushes with people I barely in a ‘they’re so pretty, I want to date them’ way.
I’ve been identifying as demisexual because I thought that was what that meant, but I looked it up and apparently if I don’t know someone I can’t feel any sort of attraction to them? I’m so confused right now. If anyone sees this, please help!
Also I feel attraction to fictional characters, which I literally can’t know and that makes me more confused.
Music artists made the best melody and beat known to man only to make the whole song about sex.
Here are some Pride Planets!! There are 28 in total and I will link the posts of the other 20!
1. Demiromatic 2. Demisexual 3. Greysexual
4. Abrosexual 5. Polysexual 6. Omnisexual
7. Polyamorous 8. Gender non-comforming
Pm me for any flags I missed or any personal combination of flags!
