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mahou etiquette

what you should and shouldn't do for interacting in the magical girl community!

regarding some interactions i've been seeing more frequently lately, i decided a general post on etiquette inside the community would be very useful for some newer magical heroes.

a magical girl's main value is to be kind, so i think we could all use some help in making that easier. this post includes (number) general "rules" for magical girl etiquette!

1. you shouldn't ask other magical girls to turn you into one.

this, at its core, is just plain disrespectful. a magical girl's journey is something incredibly personal, and asking people to just "turn you into one" is just as bad as asking people to manifest things for you or anything of the sort. and in all honesty, if we could all just become magical girls by asking a higher up to turn us into one, we would all have full results already.

by relying on someone else to "turn you" into a magical girl, you're not only relying on someone else to do these things for you but you're also placing pressure on said person. do not become dependent on random people on tumblr, or any platform, for that matter, for results— it's just rude and benefits no one.

2. on a similar note... don't go around asking for people to get you free readings or manifest you things!

sorry, i just had to specify this too. please don't do this! you can't just ask people here to do things for you, magical girl communities aren't your personal request blog. if you really need a reading, you can ask people for them if they specify they're doing readings. otherwise it's much easier to do divination yourself without bothering random people.

as for manifestation, this is similar to point 1. this is a personal journey, and you can't just ask people for it because "you can't do it". not only is that not a good mindset to have at all in terms of manifestation, you're relying on other people to get your desires. random people on tumblr can't do these things for you, and even if they can this is just rude to ask to people you don't even know.

3. don't put people down for their achievements.

you struggle with a certain magical activity and feel sad when people manage to do it? that's sad. don't put people down for succeeding. i can't believe i have to say this, honestly. you're allowed to be upset, but you are not allowed to make a scene about it and make people feel bad over... being able to do things.

listen, everyone here is hurting in some way. and honestly i would argue that a lot of people might feel the same when they can't seem to do things other people can. but guess what? these people don't shit on other people for achieving things. you're allowed to have your feelings but you are not allowed to be rude because of them. this will hurt people. this has hurt people. other people have feelings and doing this will make people feel bad about achieving things. you're putting people down for feeling good about themselves.

please just... don't. again, you're valid for feeling these feelings. but you can't act like an asshole because of it. stop making other people feel bad because you do.

4. don't act like your experience is the only valid one.

this goes for both physical and astral mahous— don't assume that all magical girls do things a certain way. astral and physical magical girls are one community, and we should stick together. that's why you can't just assume there are only either physical or astral magical girls. this is misinformation that has been around for ages, and honestly i'd just call it ex animo behavior; also known as, terrible amounts of misinfo server. assuming one or the other is never helping.

if someone asks you how to become a magical girl, without specifying physical or astral, you shouldn't just explain one and act like it's the only way. this is just ignorant. if you don't have experience in one of them you can ask them to specify or explain the one you're familiar with but be clear that this is not the only way to be a magical girl. if you can, you should also educate yourself on both sides of mahouhood, and you should at least try not to spread misinformation. it's the least you can do, in a tiny community that is so subject to this kind of fake information.

5. be kind! stand up against bullies!

don't let fellow magical girls go around bullying people. this sounds very obvious but you'd be surprised at how often this happens, and sometimes completely brushed off. i've had someone play off how they hurt me as a "jupiter retrogade" thing. and i still haven't got a decent apology for any of it! 🎐

but personal experience aside, being a magical girl is all about being kind. you don't need to be all cutesy gentle and love everyone and everything or whatever— just be kind. don't bully people, don't vague about people, don't hurt fellow magical heroes or anyone for that matter.

just as any community, being a magical girl does not exempt anyone of being a bad person or of causing harm. again, as obvious as it sounds, apparently it needs to be said. you have to own up to your mistakes and to the people you might have hurt, that is included in being kind. and an apology isn't just "sorry if what i said came off as immature or mean ahaha!"

and if you see a magical girl being rude or a bully, you should stand up against them and you should call them out on it. no amounts of sweetness or formality or not being good with tone will take away the fact that if you're being a bully, you are being a bully and you're not excluded from fault.

i hope this post reaches the people who may need it! reminder that i love you all, and that you're valid. <3