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Thinking about Astarion and his asexual swag. You canonically stop sleeping together because he wants time to come into his own. And after you finish his quest you can go meet those drow twins and he becomes really eager to try sex again. He tell you he wants to try, and he'll dart away if he gets overwhelmed. And you have right up until the moment it begins to act him if he's alright, and okay with it. And he is! He's consenting and simingly super into it. But after the act starts you notice how he disassociates. His eyes glaze and he's no longer there. Not to mention during the grave yard scene. You can have sex with him over his own grave (hot) and he takes the lead in it, which really is a great development from the first sex scene with him, where he's hardly there and you do all the work.
But. Instead of sleeping together you can ask Astarion to just. Sit. Hold each other. Cuddle! And he sounds so surprised, then delighted at you asking it.
I don't think there's anything wrong with people who choose that option with him at the grave. He's happy, consenting and eager to sleep with your character. But he's just as happy not to. He's so, so asexual. Not sex averse, clearly. But he obviously only enjoys it with you. (And maybe Halisn idk I never tried the polyam route)
-signed, your local panromantic asexual